The Change Room – Episode 21: Experience v. Understanding

The Change Room – Episode 21: Experience v. Understanding

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

In our final episode for Season 2, we help you to remove the biggest barrier to your transformation. It’s the fundamental difference between the people who ‘do’, and the people who ‘don’t’. It is Experience Understanding.

Suzy and I will unpack the simple fact – that we can not know something until we’ve experienced it. We’ll be sharing stories, examples and more tools for your Thrival tool kit.

In this episode we cover:

  • Examples of the distinction of Understanding Experience.
  • The powerful idea that Understanding never precedes Experience.
  • How to never leave out the missing piece – feeling the feelings.
  • Choosing to experience from the context of love and choosing to tell the truth.
  • Experience always needs to come first before Understanding can happen.
  • If you want to understand another person, connect with the energy and the emotion – yours and theirs – for the full picture. Let yourself be present with the feelings that are occurring, not just the dialogue and you will understand.
  • What to expect from Season 3 of The Change Room.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • To Understand something, choose to fully Experience it and Understanding will follow.
  • To Understand someone, connect with the feelings that are happening, not just the dialogue.
  • In life, Understanding is the booby prize. Choose to fully Experience instead.

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with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 18: Right Wrong

The Change Room – Episode 18: Right Wrong

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

Last episode we did the big reveal for “I’m okay, loveable, valuable because I am” and today Suzy and I have the perfect follow-up with the distinction of Right and Wrong.

When we accept “I’m okay, loveable, valuable because I am”, there’s nothing to prove and we have the freedom to choose. But with all that choice we encounter a different problem as we try to work out which is the right or wrong choice.

In this episode we’ll explore:

  • Why we’re so attached to being right
  • The Right Wrong paradigm in business.
  • Example of a Right Wrong paradigm.
  • Reasons why we are averse to being wrong.
  • How being responsive rather than reactive helps us go through the process and be responsible for what we choose to do next.
  • How Right Wrong is always context dependent.
  • The problem with asking “What’s wrong?”
  • Feeling wrong is a feeling, not a fact.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Play – Imagine everything you think is right is wrong and everything you think is wrong is right.
  • Right and wrong is always context dependent
  • Make a choice without having a reason.
  • Be right or be at peace. Choose.

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with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 16: Love

The Change Room – Episode 16: Love

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

Today in The Change Room ​Suzy and I discuss creating results from the Context of Love. We’re talking about the distinction of love, so it’s the Context of Love rather than romantic feeling of​ l​ove.

In this episode we cover:

  • Context of love in business.
  • Shifting from the context of fear to the context of love.
  • How Lorna creates from a context of love.
  • Feelings of picking up the phone for sales calls.
  • Experience of fear and how it affects business.
  • Sales or influence and the context of love and relationships.
  • The old model of sales, the results it brings, and changes we can make to improve the way we build relationships with clients.
  • Examples of sales conversations in the context of love.
  • Love as a choice.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Create a circuit breaker for habitual and old ways of thinking.
  • Acknowledge the feelings of fear.
  • Create a new context for sales conversations.
  • Choose to be loved everyday.
  • When you don’t know what to do, ask yourself this question: what would love do now?
  • Remember that fear is just a call to love.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 11: Season One Wrap

The Change Room – Episode 11: Season One Wrap

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

Today we celebrate and wrap up Season 1 of The Change Room by highlighting some of our favourite conversations (and boopers!).

We’ll be back in a few weeks with Season 2 but in the meantime make sure to say in touch with us in our Facebook Group.

During this episode we recap Episode 1-9:

  • The four levels of filters that affect our communication.
  • Filters give meaning to your everything. If you don’t like what you’re experiencing change your filter and make a different choice.
  • Difference between feelings and fact and these things affect our stories.
  • E-motion = Energy-in-motion.
  • Our feelings are created in our head before we feel them and are affected by our filters.
  • Why your action list isn’t the stumbling block for moving your business forward
  • Why setting up the context first is so important when communicating.
  • The cost of ‘living in a not good enough’ state of mind and how it impacts our ability to live authentically.
  • Why you need to tell the truth to yourself first and then the others around you.
  • Who I am is not what I do. The value of who I am is that I’m me.
  • Defining responsibility as ‘response ability’ – the ability to respond. It actually means: I get to choose. I have a choice.
  • Why we need to focus on living the ‘Be Do Have’ model rather than ‘Have Do Be’
  • The question you need to ask yourself when things aren’t turning out as expected

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 6: Response Ability

The Change Room – Episode 6: Response Ability

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast. Today we are looking at Response Ability – that is your ability to choose how you respond to what shows up in front of you.

In this episode we’ll explore:

  • Re- establishing the power of context before we start exploring the context of response ability, or commonly known as responsibility.
  • Defining what responsibility actually is and what it’s not.
  • The impact we feel when our fear and responsibility collide.
  • How crucial it is to stop and acknowledge how we’re feeling and what our considered response is to that feeling, at that time.
  • The ‘reacting’ to something is actually ‘acting’ to something that is already over, and how this moment again gives us the ability to choose how we respond.
  • That our fears are just feelings, they’re not facts, and we have the choice of how we want to respond to fear.
  • How fear, if not responded to well can send you into a hyperdrive of doing.
  • The fact that we get to choose our context – love or fear.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

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