The Change Room – Episode 28: If Something Doesn’t Change, The Truth Hasn’t Been Told

The Change Room – Episode 28: If Something Doesn’t Change, The Truth Hasn’t Been Told

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

It can be very frustrating when things don’t go your way despite all the changes you make. But nothing will change, no matter how many times you seem to change it, if you don’t tell the whole truth.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why this distinction is the ultimate responsibility that requires massive honesty.
  • How this relates to the distinction of “I get to choose and create the whole of my reality”.
  • Lorna’s experience of this distinction, how she overcame it and how she is dealing with it now.
  • Being in charge of the distinction rather than getting rid of it.
  • How the distinction applies to running your business.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • If you want something to change, tell the truth and keep telling the truth until it does.
  • You will recognise you’ve told the whole truth when the energy shifts, and it will when you tell the whole truth.
  • Be patient and gentle with yourself. It’s not a race. Be here now and just tell the truth.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 21: Experience v. Understanding

The Change Room – Episode 21: Experience v. Understanding

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

In our final episode for Season 2, we help you to remove the biggest barrier to your transformation. It’s the fundamental difference between the people who ‘do’, and the people who ‘don’t’. It is Experience Understanding.

Suzy and I will unpack the simple fact – that we can not know something until we’ve experienced it. We’ll be sharing stories, examples and more tools for your Thrival tool kit.

In this episode we cover:

  • Examples of the distinction of Understanding Experience.
  • The powerful idea that Understanding never precedes Experience.
  • How to never leave out the missing piece – feeling the feelings.
  • Choosing to experience from the context of love and choosing to tell the truth.
  • Experience always needs to come first before Understanding can happen.
  • If you want to understand another person, connect with the energy and the emotion – yours and theirs – for the full picture. Let yourself be present with the feelings that are occurring, not just the dialogue and you will understand.
  • What to expect from Season 3 of The Change Room.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • To Understand something, choose to fully Experience it and Understanding will follow.
  • To Understand someone, connect with the feelings that are happening, not just the dialogue.
  • In life, Understanding is the booby prize. Choose to fully Experience instead.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

When Fear Is The Context

When Fear Is The Context

What happens when fear is the dominant and pervasive context?

Well, all you have to do to get this is look at what is occurring in the world today.

From politics to social justice, from health to education … when fear is the filter that informs how we live, we get to live in fear.

Fear contracts, constricts, shuts down and stifles who we are and this is showing up more and more in my local community and on the world stage.

Right now in Australia, we are embroiled in a very nasty fear fuelled debate about same-sex marriage. Both sides of the debate have valid reasons for their position yet both sides are hell-bent on proving that their side is right and the other is wrong. The downright lies and misinformation being spouted are staggering. No surprise really when fear is the context.

The more people I talk to the more I see that we are showing signs of fear fatigue … and this is where we can BE the change we want to see.

Change always starts with self … who am I BEING in relationship to the pervasive fear-filled paradigm? Am I agreeing with it or am I choosing to respond to my own fearful thinking and feeling from love? Am I willing to take a stand for LOVE even though fear as a context is so insidious?

As always, it’s up to me and always I get to choose the context I operate from.

And I choose LOVE.

Love Lorna

You Can’t Get What I Mean If I Don’t Tell You What I Mean!

You Can’t Get What I Mean If I Don’t Tell You What I Mean!

I have an insidious habit of expecting you to know what I mean … even though I don’t always say exactly what I mean.

From the old paradigm of fear – I want to blame you for just not getting it. Even when I say the same thing over and over again … you still don’t get it … and I end up frustrated and more convinced than ever that you are the one to blame.

I do this because I think you should know what I mean. I am after all a communication expert and I pride myself on being rigorous and clear … so what’s going on when you don’t get what I mean?

Well … it’s not you … it’s me!

In the paradigm of cause, I know that whatever occurs I have created it. When I get a response from you that I perceive as you not understanding me it’s because I have not provided you with my clear CONTEXT. I haven’t told you the purpose of my communication or what I expect you to understand from my communication so of course you just make up what you think I mean and react accordingly.

And if I stay anchored in the old paradigm and continue to blame you for just not getting it, I get to feel righteous, you get to feel wrong and the whole communication goes nowhere either of us wants to be.

So I choose to remember that if I want you to get what I mean I need to tell you what I mean before I tell you what I want to tell you. It also helps if I take a moment to check-in with you to make sure you get what I mean before I keep blahing all the content at you.

This takes awareness and rigour because when feelings and emotions are in the mix, it’s easy to forget my own golden rule: CONTEXT before CONTENT.

And when I remember to follow my own rule, you have a better chance of understanding me and vice versa.

Get it?

Love Lorna

Love Is The Energy Of Creation

Love Is The Energy Of Creation

Who you are is Love.

Love is the energy of creation so it follows that you are the energy of creation … And you are the created and the creation too.

Now this might sound confusing or difficult or too hard or whatever …

It’s not.

It’s very simple … and that’s one of the reasons you have so much trouble processing this or accepting it … because it IS simple.

Simply this: You create the whole of your own reality. You are the one who gets to choose how to express the energy of love that you are. You are the one who gets to decide what you will focus on, believe in and thus manifest as your reality.

And the kicker is … you are not 100% conscious of creating the whole of your own reality. You just get to experience the whole once it’s been chosen … by you.

When you accept and appreciate that the whole of your own reality is your choice, your creation, then you can respond to the whole of your reality and the whole of you with love.

The more you allow yourself to BE LOVE, the more you will DO loving actions and behaviours and thus you will experience that you are indeed, the energy of creation … LOVE.

Love Lorna

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