The Change Room – Episode 19: Trust

The Change Room – Episode 19: Trust

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into trust and how the concept of not putting trust in others has transformed our business experience and relationships.

Suzy and I share with you the powerful distinction of Trust – how people think of it and use it. We’ll share stories and examples to bring this to life, and more tools for your thrival tool kit.

In this episode we cover:

  • The most powerful place to source trust is inside you, not outside.
  • Why there is no room for blame in Trust.
  • How to take responsibility about what you create and all that happens to you.
  • Unearthing the freedom to choose what to do and how to respond next.
  • Trust what you know before you trust anything outside of you.
  • Acknowledge what you have and haven’t done.
  • If you don’t tell the truth, nothing will change.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Trust is an inside job.
  • Put space and time between you and your response.
  • Progress is in the practice.
  • Practice trusting your first thought, first feeling, your first “aha!” and see what happens.
  • Tell the truth about what you can trust – you!
  • Notice what’s going on for you when you do and don’t trust yourself, and change your actions accordingly.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Niggle Knows Even When I Say I Don’t

The Niggle Knows Even When I Say I Don’t

You know what the truth is for you. You might not know all the content and detail and you DO know when something is true … or not.

And so do I.

Yet you and I both lie about it sometimes.

I say “I don’t know” when what I mean is that I am not yet certain of what I do know and in the absence of any tangible evidence, my fearful ego-mind starts the infernal, internal conversation that I really don’t know what’s true because I am feeling unsure. Which just leads to more uncertainty and round and round I go.

What I have discovered is that when I am presented with a “truth”, it takes about 2 seconds for the energetic response … either “yes” or “no”.

No ambiguity in the energy, just a clear “yes” or “no”. It’s very fast and when I am present and open and aware, I notice the response. “Yes” is very clear and the energy flows … and “no” is the niggle.

The energetic “no” response is simply my way of letting me know that whatever I am hearing, seeing, feeling, experiencing is not the whole truth. When I refuse to ignore the niggle, when I choose to pay attention and go with the niggle, I ask more questions, get more information, and seek to find out what’s really going on so I can respond effectively.

When I ignore the niggle … usually because I want to believe that whatever I am experiencing is the truth, I have to shut down the part of me that knows that something is not ok with whatever is occurring. I have plenty of experience of ignoring the niggle and reaping the (oft painful) consequences. And I also have plenty of experience of paying attention to the niggle and reaping the (oft pleasant) consequences.

As always in the paradigm of cause, it’s a choice.

So next time you feel the niggle … choose to pay attention and respond from love. Because you do know what the truth is for you.

Love Lorna

Trust Me

Trust Me

You can really only trust one thing about me, and that is, you can trust me to be me.

Sometimes aware and responsible and loving and detached … sometimes shut-down, scared and reacting like a wounded child and everything in between.

Yet when things get tough and I am consumed by my unresolved feelings and emotions, when I forget who I am and simply react out of my fear of being hurt/abandoned or whatever it is then you will experience me either fighting or fleeing or simply stonewalling. When I am in that feeling state, I will do whatever it takes to survive … including lying and betraying you to be true to myself.

And there’s the sting in the tail of trust.

It’s not about you … it’s about me.

Can I trust myself to know the difference between truth and lies? Can I trust my response to you and the external world beyond any words or actions that say otherwise? Can I trust me?

If I think that trust is about trusting you, I am bound to experience betrayal in some form or another and so are you. When I remember that trusting myself is the key to trust then trusting you to always or never do this or that is not necessary.

Being present to the whole of what is going on for me … being aware of my own internal knowing of what’s actually going on and trusting that is far more effective than trusting anyone or anything outside of me.

And when I remember this, trusting me to be and you to be you … is easy.

Love Lorna

Trust is an inside job

Spiritual Vagabonds

What Do You Trust?

What Do You Trust?

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Let’s tell the truth and look at how you trust and what you trust. It’s much easier to trust than you think but first, you must be honest about what you do and don’t trust.

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