What causes wishful thinking and why does it cost us so much?

What causes wishful thinking and why does it cost us so much?

The Elephant In The Room Property Podcast with Veronica Morgan & Chris Bates | Episode 46

Real estate can be a really expensive self development workshop.

Lorna Patten, counsellor and trainer, is renowned for telling the truth that needs to be told. So who better to explain to us exactly what lies underneath some of the decisions property buyers make – in particular those that cost people a lot of money. This is the episode we’ve been wanting to make for some time and we uncovered some absolute gems:

  1. What we fear the most when it comes to life and how that can lead to buying property for all the wrong reasons.
  2. The difference between normal anxiety about a big decision and a niggle that’s really a warning sign.
  3. Practical steps for gaining clarity around what you want and to succeed when buying with your partner.

If you suspect that you might be driven by your inner 3 year old saying “I want it, I want it, I want it”, you’d better listen to this episode!

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The Change Room – Episode 30: It’s never done, it’s simply in process

The Change Room – Episode 30: It’s never done, it’s simply in process

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

Why are we always in process? Because we choose to be. Living and being is a process, not an outcome and it involves doing the work and overcoming obstacles but we get better at it over time.

In this episode, we discuss this distinction and cover:

  • What occurs when you choose to be in process and choose this as the foundation for life.
  • Why “I’m not good enough” is the source code that needs to be changed.
  • What drives our need to be “done”?
  • The goal of the new paradigm.
  • How to enjoy the process of creating who we’re being.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • When the “not good enough” shows up, just remember – it’s a feeling. Breathe and respond from love.
  • Accept that you’re always in process and that’s okay.
  • Be here now because there’s only one moment. That’s a gift. You can choose to be or not to be in process, and love and enjoy it.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 29: How do you know you’re stuck in the drama?

The Change Room – Episode 29: How do you know you’re stuck in the drama?

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

We all experience drama in our lives. In fact, we are very good at creating drama and being highly dramatic over the smallest things. It can be very frustrating especially when we don’t know we’re there. So, how do you know you’re stuck in the drama?

In this episode, we discuss this distinction and cover:

  • Suzy’s personal experience with this distinction and the steps she took to get out of it.
  • How drama affects your life and takes you away from the things you need to focus on.
  • Recognising the drama by being aware of the 3 key elements of the old paradigm.
  • How this distinction relates to previous ones we’ve discussed, especially the distinction of “I’m not good enough”.
  • Identifying the source of the drama and getting through it.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Practice asking yourself often, “Where am I coming from – fear or love?” Then choose.
  • Fear is insidious. It runs the world. So chances are, you are in fear whenever you ask if you are in fear.  So, let go and choose.
  • You are the one that’s causing everything that’s occurring. You are causing it all with loving intention.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 28: If Something Doesn’t Change, The Truth Hasn’t Been Told

The Change Room – Episode 28: If Something Doesn’t Change, The Truth Hasn’t Been Told

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

It can be very frustrating when things don’t go your way despite all the changes you make. But nothing will change, no matter how many times you seem to change it, if you don’t tell the whole truth.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why this distinction is the ultimate responsibility that requires massive honesty.
  • How this relates to the distinction of “I get to choose and create the whole of my reality”.
  • Lorna’s experience of this distinction, how she overcame it and how she is dealing with it now.
  • Being in charge of the distinction rather than getting rid of it.
  • How the distinction applies to running your business.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • If you want something to change, tell the truth and keep telling the truth until it does.
  • You will recognise you’ve told the whole truth when the energy shifts, and it will when you tell the whole truth.
  • Be patient and gentle with yourself. It’s not a race. Be here now and just tell the truth.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 27: What do you mean by that?

The Change Room – Episode 27: What do you mean by that?

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

Being misunderstood or not understanding something can cause us frustration, but asking this one simple question can change everything: “What do you mean by that?”.

In this episode, we cover:

  • The challenges that changing communication channels bring.
  • How and why it is important to be responsible in our communication.
  • The reason why communication doesn’t work when something isn’t being said.
  • The risks of reading between the lines.
  • The use of miscommunication as a reason for not being clear enough.
  • Why being misunderstood is a myth.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • When you don’t get the response you want or expect, ask yourself what you didn’t say. Take responsibility and then communicate it.
  • Whenever you find yourself reacting to a communication, 1) ask “what did you mean by that?” or 2) feedback what you thought it meant by saying “did you mean this?” and then respond.
  • Being explicit in all your communication is a choice. It saves time, energy and makes life simple.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

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