Trust What You Know

Trust What You Know

I am still reeling over the spate of violence in my city, in my country and in the world that has been all over the news in recent weeks. The messy human me is feeling all of it acutely … shocked, scared and very, very sad.

And I know there is a huge opportunity for me and you and everyone to make a considerable difference to this dynamic, if I am willing to feel my feelings and let them go … and get present to what I know is possible when I remember WHO I AM in the matter and what’s possible when I respond from love rather than agreeing with my fear.

I have worked with a lot of people over the past 40 years who have experienced various levels of domestic violence and it’s shattering consequences.  Almost everyone I have questioned about when they first knew something was off, not ok or just plain dangerous, the response has been “… way before something violent occurred … but I thought it was just me being paranoid or me saying or doing something I shouldn’t have …”

That’s when things get really messy because when I choose to agree with my fearful ego mind, that it’s my fault rather than something I can be responsible for, I will fight hard to prove I am good enough by staying in the situation and doing whatever I can to be better, do better and make things ok.

It doesn’t work and often results in the sort of violent behaviour that ends in increased abuse, violence and ultimately, tragedy.

So what can I do differently?

First and foremost remember: I create the whole of my own reality which means I am responsible for what occurs and how I respond. When I trust what I know, (not what I think or feel, what I know)* , when I pay attention to the “niggle” that something is off, I tell someone, I ask for help and take action to take care of myself first …  from love. When I choose to love myself and trust what I know … love for myself first and foremost, I can change what happens next.

It’s not easy and if I am willing to trust when I know something is not ok, in spite of any hard evidence and in spite of my thinking mind pushing back hard. When I am willing to speak up and take action consistent with what I know rather than what I fear, I am firmly centred in the paradigm of BEING cause and therefore able to respond from love and create something different in the next moment.

And you can too.

Love Lorna

* If you want to know more, Jenny’s book and website are the place to go!

I’m very excited to announce the launch of my Soul Sister,
Jenny McFadden’s new book:

The Game of Intuition and How to Play It:
Trust Yourself, Transform Your Life

The Game of Intuition and How to Play It by Jenny McFadden

The book is perfect for those who want to awaken their Intuitive wisdom in playful and creative ways and develop unshakeable trust in their inner GPS, offering unique ways to play the game of intuition.

The kindle version is available for $1.99
Paperback: $36.30 (full colour, gloss cover)

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Peace, Joy and Love

Peace, Joy and Love

This is what I choose to experience during this festive season and beyond.

No matter what is going on, whether it be inside me or outside me, I get to choose the thoughts I think, the feelings I feel, the choices I make and the actions I take.

And so do you.

Right now, the world is reflecting all the fearful thinking we messy humans relentlessly engage in and agree with on a daily basis.

I don’t control anything going on outside of me … and I can choose whether I agree with my fearful thoughts or acknowledge them, I can choose to remember I am choosing them (even though it doesn’t feel like it because mostly it’s deeply unconscious and automatic) and then I can choose, I can decide whether I am going to keep thinking/feeling this way or let them go.

It’s not easy and it is possible with rigour and practice.

What it takes is my willingness to BE the cause of everything that I am experiencing.

To stop … take a breath and BE here now, in my body.

To remember WHO I AM is powerful, and loveable, and valuable and creative (even though I don’t always show up that way) and then consciously choose … the thoughts I think, the feelings I feel, the choices I make in response and the actions I take as a result.

I choose peace, and joy and love.

Love Lorna

As 2023 draws to a close and I reflect on how this past year been, I am profoundly grateful for being who I am, where I am in this magnificent place, doing what I love with people that inspire me, challenge me and call me forth every day.

Thank you so much one and all for your continued support, guidance, sharing, trust, openness, honesty and courage in playing the biggest game in town with me.

A special bow of gratitude to Maxine, my Personal Angel who keeps everything humming along sweetly for me, to Rae my extraordinary Cyber Queen who makes a difference in all she does for me, and to Jane, handling all the financial admin and such with ease and precision. Blessed I am to have you in my corner.

Wishing you and yours a simply beautiful, nurturing, joyous festive season.

I love you.

I will be taking time out to celebrate Christmas with my extended family at the beach from December 22 – January 15.

See you in 2024!

If you are looking for a gift for someone special, how about my latest book …
when I get squeezed … Available on Amazon

Wishing you and yours a simply beautiful, nurturing, joyous festive season.

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Is Anything Ever Good Enough?

Is Anything Ever Good Enough?

The short, simple answer is no.

As long as you seek to become “good enough” or get something to be “good enough” you are on a relentless roller-coaster of “not quite good enough … yet”.

And therein lies the seductive trap of your fearful thinking mind which says: “if I could just do enough, have enough, succeed enough, create enough … blah, blah, blah … than I would feel good enough.”

And then I would be happy.

Doesn’t work though … does it?

The loving response to this relentless game of “not good enough” is to remember who you are … loveable, valuable, powerful … and to accept that although you don’t feel that way all the time, that is WHO you are.

As with all things in this paradigm of cause, it’s simple and requires a willingness to accept the whole of who you are irrespective of what you think and how you feel. Thoughts and feelings come and go, WHO you are is constant.

You are the one who chooses to think the thoughts you think and you also choose whether to agree with them or not. Same with your feelings. You choose to feel the feelings you feel. You get to choose whether to agree or not.

When you tell the truth about who you are and what you are choosing to think and feel and do… when you choose to respond to your “not good enough” stuff from love rather than fear, everything changes.

And right now, we humans could certainly do with changing a lot of the “not good enough/not enough” conflict that’s going on in our world. The most effective way to for me to respond, is to ask myself: “Where am I in conflict/at war with myself/others?” and then let the answers come to me … and they do!

It’s uncomfortable and sometimes it feels pointless when I see and feel all the fear and pain in the world and yet I know that the only way I/we can truly resolve and transform any conflict is to first go within. When I choose to remember who I am, when I choose to love myself, tell the truth and be responsible for everything I am choosing to create and experience, I am at peace.

Imagine, if every human being simply chose love over fear …
We can … and it starts with me.

Love Lorna

there is enough

there is enough
of everything
for everyone
all the time
there is enough
of all we need
for all we are
and now can be
there is enough
air to breathe
and food to feed
the hungry
there is enough
love to heal
the hearts of those
who hurt
there is enough
of everything
there is enough
there is

From my latest poetry book when I get squeezed now available on Amazon

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when I get squeezed …

when I get squeezed …

… is the title of my new poetry book which you can buy on amazon from today!
Spoiler alert: it’s hard copy only, no kindle or e-reader versions.

I am thrilled, delighted and very satisfied at having finally gathered all the poems I have been writing over the past dozen years as well as creating some new ones and putting them into a book to share with you and the world.

when I get squeezed ... poems from the inside by Lorna Patten

when I get squeezed

poems from the inside

by Lorna Patten

Poetry is not something I had a yearning for or a passion to produce. In fact, I was completely taken aback when I found myself holding what was to become my first book of poems, opened up.

I remember thinking “I can’t share this with the world, it’s far too personal, it’s my journal, my deeper thoughts and feelings all laid bare … it’s not poetry really”. Yet with much support from many people, I self-published opened up in 1999. (You can get it on my website)

Since then, I have noticed that there are times when I am moved to write more poetry. I don’t sit and think about what I will write, should write, could write … I simply sit and write whatever is coming through, whatever words I hear inside I write. No editing, tweaking, changing or altering … just as it comes.

It’s really pretty simple yet when I start to think about what I am writing, when I choose to let my very fine analytical mind take hold, the words don’t flow and I end up stuck in a cycle of thinking about what I am writing and then writing what I am thinking. It doesn’t work and it’s certainly not poetry!

What works for me is to simply allow the words to flow when they do and stay mindful that when I start telling myself I have to write something now, I don’t.
Then I stop, take a breath and let go.

It’s simple and not always easy, yet when I do, everything flows … and that’s poetry.

Love Lorna

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When Is Enough, Enough?

When Is Enough, Enough?

It appears that the concept of enough is enough is foreign to many people in the world today. There is a huge amount of advertising and marketing and spin based on the idea that more is better and even more is even better.

And yet, the more people seem to acquire, the more they want and the more they want the more they have to acquire and on it goes with no end in sight.
So when is enough … enough?

The irony to me is that we have enough for everyone to be fed and housed and educated and looked after in a way that enhances life on our planet for all human beings. We do!
So why do some have so much more than enough and others have almost nothing?
Because we won’t share.

And the reason we won’t share is because we are scared that we might end up with not enough if we do. This ridiculous notion is based on the primal wounding of the inner child … I am not good enough but if I do this or that, succeed in this or that, get enough, have enough then maybe I will feel good enough. It doesn’t work because there is no way out of this loop until you realise, it’s not true.

Here’s the truth about you and me (and everyone else on our planet):
I am ok, I am loveable and valuable because I AM and I feel anything but ok a lot.
The feelings of not good enough are feelings, not facts. They cannot be responded to in any way that works by doing more, having more, getting more and holding onto much more than I need. That only reinforces my feelings of lack and not good enough.

So, what can I do? Change my mind, clean my filter. Remember who I am is ok and what I feel is what I feel.

For me the rigour required to remember this and live like I am ok is a daily practice using my favourite mantra: I am enough, I have enough, there is always enough.

And that’s enough for me.

Love Lorna

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