Being Selfish Works
Does the idea of being selfish bring up a whole lot of feelings, thoughts and judgements for you?
When young, you were probably taught (as I was) that being selfish is “wrong’” and “bad” and therefore if you were selfish, it meant you were “bad” and “wrong”. Let’s face it, selfish in this context is not something any of us want to be accused of or known for.
And in your desire to be seen as anything but selfish – out of the fear of being judged as “not good enough” – you began playing the game of life from the victim-persecutor-rescuer dynamic, often denying your needs/wants/desires in order to be seen as “good’” and “right” and “selfless” because you put others first.
So how is that working out for you?
Taking care of others at the expense of yourself is not a recipe for peace or joy or fulfilment and it creates exactly what you don’t really want… the game goes on.
As with all things, the meaning you give to the idea of being selfish is absolutely context-dependent.
When you choose to be selfish from the context of I Create the Whole of My Own Reality, when you choose selfishly from a context of love, it means that you include your loving self in your choices to BE, Do and Have. It means that you are willing to consider yourself and your needs as well as considering others. It means that you value yourself and your feelings and your needs not at the expense of others but as well as. And it means as well as giving support, you are willing to ask for and receive support for yourself too.
Being selfish in the new paradigm means taking care of yourself first so that you can BE who you choose to be with and for others.
In the context of love, being selfish actually works … for you and for me.
When I selfishly create the whole of my own reality from love
everybody benefits including me