Who’s Really Judging You?
Your human propensity to judge is hardwired. You need to be able to judge (discern) things in order to survive. However when your ability to judge becomes enmeshed with your own “not good enough” story it becomes a pervasive primary filter that informs how you see yourself, others and the world.
Here’s a simple test to see who’s really judging you:
- How often are you concerned or convinced that others are judging you?
- How often do you think you are being judged?
If you answered never, leave a comment sharing how you do it.
If you answered rarely, sometimes, often or always … keep reading …
When you think others are judging you … who’s thinking that? Think about it … Who’s thinking others are judging you? That’s right … you are!
And when you think others are judging you, if that is the filter you look through, you’ll gather evidence to prove you are right … you will feel judged because that is what you are doing to yourself.
Changing your filter from one of critical self-judgement to one of loving acceptance is simple although not easy at first.
Start by interrupting the flow of toxic thoughts as soon as you become aware of them. Then challenge their validity by saying to yourself “Thanks for the reminder…it’s not true that I am not good enough…this is an old story that has served its purpose and right now I choose to remember who I really am – I am ok, I am loveable and valuable because I am”. You may have to do this many, many times at first and if you persist, you will notice the thoughts don’t come up so often, so fully or linger for as long. And one day you will notice that the once pervasive “not good enough” rant is a merely a whisper.
For you are the one who has decided Who and What You Really Are – and Who You Want To Be. And you are the only one who can judge how well you are doing.