The Change Room – Episode 22: Big commitments, big fear flags

The Change Room – Episode 22: Big commitments, big fear flags

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

In this episode, Suzy and I talk about embracing your biggest fear to meet your biggest freedom.

  • Suzy shares her experience of big fear flags on a trek and how she tackled it with her friend.
  • Lorna shares what big fear flags meant in her business.
  • We discuss how you can’t know what you do want if you don’t know what you don’t want.
  • And how fear flags show you important stuff and bring you closer to what you want.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Choose to become aware of your fear flags so you have the option to respond.
  • If you react – stop, breathe, and let the feeling go – then choose to respond differently.
  • If something shows up that you don’t like ask yourself “what’s this showing me about me and how to get what I want?” and then make a new choice.

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with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 21: Experience v. Understanding

The Change Room – Episode 21: Experience v. Understanding

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

In our final episode for Season 2, we help you to remove the biggest barrier to your transformation. It’s the fundamental difference between the people who ‘do’, and the people who ‘don’t’. It is Experience Understanding.

Suzy and I will unpack the simple fact – that we can not know something until we’ve experienced it. We’ll be sharing stories, examples and more tools for your Thrival tool kit.

In this episode we cover:

  • Examples of the distinction of Understanding Experience.
  • The powerful idea that Understanding never precedes Experience.
  • How to never leave out the missing piece – feeling the feelings.
  • Choosing to experience from the context of love and choosing to tell the truth.
  • Experience always needs to come first before Understanding can happen.
  • If you want to understand another person, connect with the energy and the emotion – yours and theirs – for the full picture. Let yourself be present with the feelings that are occurring, not just the dialogue and you will understand.
  • What to expect from Season 3 of The Change Room.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • To Understand something, choose to fully Experience it and Understanding will follow.
  • To Understand someone, connect with the feelings that are happening, not just the dialogue.
  • In life, Understanding is the booby prize. Choose to fully Experience instead.

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with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 11: Season One Wrap

The Change Room – Episode 11: Season One Wrap

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

Today we celebrate and wrap up Season 1 of The Change Room by highlighting some of our favourite conversations (and boopers!).

We’ll be back in a few weeks with Season 2 but in the meantime make sure to say in touch with us in our Facebook Group.

During this episode we recap Episode 1-9:

  • The four levels of filters that affect our communication.
  • Filters give meaning to your everything. If you don’t like what you’re experiencing change your filter and make a different choice.
  • Difference between feelings and fact and these things affect our stories.
  • E-motion = Energy-in-motion.
  • Our feelings are created in our head before we feel them and are affected by our filters.
  • Why your action list isn’t the stumbling block for moving your business forward
  • Why setting up the context first is so important when communicating.
  • The cost of ‘living in a not good enough’ state of mind and how it impacts our ability to live authentically.
  • Why you need to tell the truth to yourself first and then the others around you.
  • Who I am is not what I do. The value of who I am is that I’m me.
  • Defining responsibility as ‘response ability’ – the ability to respond. It actually means: I get to choose. I have a choice.
  • Why we need to focus on living the ‘Be Do Have’ model rather than ‘Have Do Be’
  • The question you need to ask yourself when things aren’t turning out as expected

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with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 10: The Whole Whole Model

The Change Room – Episode 10: The Whole Whole Model

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast. Today in The Change Room we distill one of the most powerful models to be used within the macro model of I Create the Whole of my Own Reality. It’s the Whole Whole model.

In this episode Suzy Jacobs and Lorna Patten explore:

  • How the whole of me, creates the whole of my own reality.
  • Only 10% of what you create is conscious.
  • By taking responsibility you increase your consciousness.
  • How do I take responsibility for what shows up when it wasn’t what was planned.
  • What is the benefit of creating Z when I was creating X.
  • There is always a reason Z shows up.
  • There is nothing to be gained from being annoyed and pissed off by Z showing up.
  • The importance of not getting stuck in the elephant hunt of asking ‘why’ things happen, instead focus on asking HOW did this happen and what purpose does it serve.
  • It’s not about the quantity of knowledge, it is about practice and awareness.
  • Use this model for anything you want to change especially when you are not getting what you wanted. Notice the feelings and thoughts around this, and accept that whatever occurred you caused it.
  • Take the steps and see what shifts. Continue to practice this over and over again.

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with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 2: Feelings

The Change Room – Episode 2: Feelings

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast as we have a conversation about feelings.

Today we are following up on the last episode about filters and continue the conversations around feelings and why we must understand that our feelings are not facts.

In this episode we’ll explore:

  • Understanding what a feeling actually is – energy and emotions.
  • The internal dialogue that you keep telling yourself and the impact this, largely unconscious practice can have on our feelings.
  • How a feeling is meant to be felt for about 90 seconds.
  • The challenges that can occur when we agree with the feelings we have that aren’t factual and how this impacts on our behaviours and actions.
  • The need to get emotionally resourced.
  • The realisation when you acknowledge that your feelings are not the facts, and the freedom that can be felt from speaking and identifying your truth.
  • There are no short cuts, experience is everything and the need to keep practicing to feel your feelings

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with Suzy Jacobs

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