Give It Up!
Chances are you learned from an early age to judge your feelings – and yourself – when expressing a feeling others didn’t like. And without any real education and experience of the value of your feelings, you shut down and began suppressing, repressing and depressing strong emotional reactions and feelings, particularly the ones you judge as not okay, not appropriate, “negative”.
Yet your ability to feel and react emotionally to things is part of being human and, as such, has value and purpose and the power to transform you and your experience of life.
First, let go of the old childhood belief: “Some feelings are bad and some feelings are good” and instead adopt the belief: “Feelings are neither bad nor good, they are all just feelings and exist to let me know how I feel about whatever is occurring”.
Then realise your feelings show the stories you make up in your head, the meaning you give to everything that happens, often without checking to see if what you have assumed is actually what is happening. When you decide that what you feel is the truth about whatever is happening, you have just agreed with the story you made up!
You have turned the feeling into a fact – when in fact it is not the truth about the situation or experience, it is simply the truth, the fact of what you are feeling.
Accept that what you are feeling is okay … it has purpose and value and is something you can respond to. Then let yourself acknowledge it fully … which means feel it in your body and let it go … breathe and allow and let it release (Jill Bolte-Taylor says it takes 90 seconds for the energy to move through your body and release). You will discover the freedom that comes from being the cause of your feelings and emotions rather than at their effect.
When you stop turning your feelings into facts, when you stop recycling the old painful movies (and feelings) about your “not good enough” stuff you will free yourself to consciously choose the meaning you put on everything and how you feel.
…judge not, and neither condemn, for you know not why a thing occurs or to what end.
Thanks so much Lorna, as usual your words have come at the perfect moment for me and I am sure you must have written them with me in mind! You are an amazing and wonderful lady … please keep these fab emails coming.
I find it so useful to have the explicit concepts on hand to go back to – particularly the one from November.
When I’m low, or running in the same old rut, I reread, particularly the following para:
It’s time to give up your “not good enough” story, time to step-up and really own the truth about who you really are – the creator of the whole of your own reality – powerful beyond measure, perfectly you, right here, right now – able to show up as “the most magnificent version of the greatest vision” you have ever had about yourself. Choose to remember that you are ok (and so is everyone else), that you are inherently loving energy (and so is everyone else) and whatever it looks like, whatever you feel – if you seek to connect with the loving intention in every situation, interaction and conversation – you will find it – and yourself.
Thanks for sending them out