Inside Out

Inside Out

As I approach the end of another calendar year, I find myself reflecting on the year that has been and marvelling at the complexity and the simplicity both locally and globally.

There can be no doubt that this year brought a multitude of fascinating, frustrating and illuminating mirrors in the form of various world leaders and local friends and foes.

When I found myself awash in the sheer lunacy of what I was seeing and experiencing, the only relief I sought was to go within and ask myself one key question: “What would love do now?” Because any other location or any other question was not going to deliver what I sought … peace.

And that, my friends, is what I am taking away with me for my annual holiday with family. That the only true path to peace is within. There is no sustainable peace or joy or happiness on offer when I am attached to and hell bent on making my external reality meet my expectations. After many years of relentlessly going down that rabbit hole, I have discovered that if I truly want inner peace then I must go within and choose to BE at peace.

There is nothing I can control or make happen in my external world. No amount of persuasion will make someone feel what I want them to feel or do what I want them to do or be how I want them to be. And yet the divine dichotomy in the paradigm of cause is that I have created all of it and yet I control none of it.

When I remember I create the whole of my own reality with love and wisdom – always – I can relax and let go and allow myself to appreciate the complexity and the simplicity of the whole and trust that there is purpose in all of it. Then I get to choose how I want to BE in relationship to whatever is occurring and thus transform not just my internal state but also my experience of my external reality including how I experience you.

Just need to remember … I get to choose.

Love Lorna

Stop Expecting Others To Be Reasonable

Stop Expecting Others To Be Reasonable

These very wise words are what my coach and mentor said to me just prior to my Christmas holiday.

And I am delighted to report that I took his coaching with me and frequently remembered (and reminded myself) to let go of my expectations as I thoroughly enjoyed my family-centric Christmas at the beach.

The following 2 weeks were also very relaxing and enjoyable … and although the holiday vibe had a lot to do with it, I also know my willingness to stop expecting others to be reasonable, made an enormous difference to my state of mind and heart and feelings and experience.

As with all things in this glorious paradigm of cause … it is breathtakingly simple … just stop expecting anything!

Yet the day to day hoobliblah of living always gets in the way of my very best intentions. I forget to detach…I find myself expecting this or that because that is how it’s always been … or even more insidious … how it should be. And what I know will occur if I go down the rabbit hole of agreement is that I end up frustrated, disappointed and/or downright angry. Because disappointment is an inevitable by-product of attachment to expectations.

So my choice is NOT to get rid of all expectations – for that just leads me down the rabbit hole too – but rather to BE aware of when I have become attached to my expectations so I can acknowledge them and let go. And the more I practice letting go, the more I experience the space and peace I choose.

Love Lorna

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