Inside Out

Inside Out

As I approach the end of another calendar year, I find myself reflecting on the year that has been and marvelling at the complexity and the simplicity both locally and globally.

There can be no doubt that this year brought a multitude of fascinating, frustrating and illuminating mirrors in the form of various world leaders and local friends and foes.

When I found myself awash in the sheer lunacy of what I was seeing and experiencing, the only relief I sought was to go within and ask myself one key question: “What would love do now?” Because any other location or any other question was not going to deliver what I sought … peace.

And that, my friends, is what I am taking away with me for my annual holiday with family. That the only true path to peace is within. There is no sustainable peace or joy or happiness on offer when I am attached to and hell bent on making my external reality meet my expectations. After many years of relentlessly going down that rabbit hole, I have discovered that if I truly want inner peace then I must go within and choose to BE at peace.

There is nothing I can control or make happen in my external world. No amount of persuasion will make someone feel what I want them to feel or do what I want them to do or be how I want them to be. And yet the divine dichotomy in the paradigm of cause is that I have created all of it and yet I control none of it.

When I remember I create the whole of my own reality with love and wisdom – always – I can relax and let go and allow myself to appreciate the complexity and the simplicity of the whole and trust that there is purpose in all of it. Then I get to choose how I want to BE in relationship to whatever is occurring and thus transform not just my internal state but also my experience of my external reality including how I experience you.

Just need to remember … I get to choose.

Love Lorna

The Change Room – Episode 29: How do you know you’re stuck in the drama?

The Change Room – Episode 29: How do you know you’re stuck in the drama?

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

We all experience drama in our lives. In fact, we are very good at creating drama and being highly dramatic over the smallest things. It can be very frustrating especially when we don’t know we’re there. So, how do you know you’re stuck in the drama?

In this episode, we discuss this distinction and cover:

  • Suzy’s personal experience with this distinction and the steps she took to get out of it.
  • How drama affects your life and takes you away from the things you need to focus on.
  • Recognising the drama by being aware of the 3 key elements of the old paradigm.
  • How this distinction relates to previous ones we’ve discussed, especially the distinction of “I’m not good enough”.
  • Identifying the source of the drama and getting through it.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Practice asking yourself often, “Where am I coming from – fear or love?” Then choose.
  • Fear is insidious. It runs the world. So chances are, you are in fear whenever you ask if you are in fear.  So, let go and choose.
  • You are the one that’s causing everything that’s occurring. You are causing it all with loving intention.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 25: Love yourself. Tell the truth. Be responsible.

The Change Room – Episode 25: Love yourself. Tell the truth. Be responsible.

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

How would life be any different if you could love yourself, tell the truth and be responsible? If finding the source of inner peace during the craziest, busiest, most challenging times of life is of interest, stick around to discover the magic of this distinction.

In this episode we discuss:

  • Suzy’s Triple Top Line Questions to sorting opportunities: can I add value, will I have fun and can I make money?
  • Cut-through and power of both the triple distinction and the triple top line questions in making decisions.
  • The 3 keys to the new paradigm.
  • Suzy’s personal experience of this distinction.
  • Mastering the new paradigm by consistently applying the same rigor with these 3 distinctions.
  • The meaning of loving yourself.
  • Transforming your experience of life when you love yourself.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Get to know who this self is that I’m here to be.
  • When in doubt, ask: “what would loving myself look like right now?” And then do that.
  • Use loving yourself, telling the truth and being responsible as a 3-step conscious process for 1 whole day and see what happens.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 24: You’re never upset for the reason you think you are

The Change Room – Episode 24: You’re never upset for the reason you think you are

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

In this episode, Suzy and I will talk about the distinction called “you’re never upset for the reason you think you are.” We will discuss and explain why when we are upset, it’s because of something that’s happened in the past and not the present. When you are in the Change Room you are in the new paradigm. We will share stories and provide tools for your Thrival Kit.

This episode is in honour of our friend and colleague, Monica Brewer, an extraordinary and beautiful human being.

In this episode we discuss:

  • How the past is so critical to this distinction and how it interferes with the present.
  • Suzy’s story of how she has experienced this distinction.
  • How creating space, slowing down, thinking about what was going on and digging below the superficial reaction has helped Suzy get to her source of truth and be present.
  • When you’re willing to stop for a moment and be present then you get see what’s really at source and it’s not usually what you first think it is.
  • Lorna shares her example of going through this distinction and how she got through it and became present.
  • The power of having an awareness of this distinction so that you can be responsible for unpacking what’s actually going on and having the conversation that matters in that moment with that person about that thing.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • When you find yourself reacting, ask yourself, “what’s really going on?” And then listen and keep responding until the energy shifts – and it will.
  • There’s nothing wrong with feeling upset. It’s simply an opportunity to get present and respond. So, let go of the judgement and get curious instead.
  • The more you practice choosing to view everything through the filter of ‘being cause’ through the paradigm of love, the easier it gets.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 23: Stop agreeing with your fear

The Change Room – Episode 23: Stop agreeing with your fear

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

It’s time to “stop agreeing with your fear.” Get ready to skill up, add more to your thrival kits so you can make better choices at the biggest moments in your life.

In this episode we discuss:

  • Fear in the arena of money, investment and wealth creation.
  • Our Money Mindset – unconsciously gathered from life experiences and which can range from scarcity to abundance.
  • Being confronted triggers fear and moves us further down the money mindset.
  • Fear is insidious, pervasive and largely unconscious.
  • How to distinguish a context of fear.
  • Be wise in your choice of who to speak to about money to get informed, educated and wise.
  • Money is only ever a means to an end.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Acknowledge when you’re operating from a context of fear.
  • Be responsible for staying in the process and identifying what isn’t working.
  • You can always choose – fear or love.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

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