Goodbye Social Media

Goodbye Social Media

It’s taken me a while to process my decision to let go of participating in social media.

Now that I have, it’s goodbye to Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

For some time now I have been feeling disengaged and unmotivated to check my FB pages, my LinkedIn invitations and my Twitter feed. I thought it was just a passing phase so didn’t do anything to fix it or make anything happen … instead I chose to simply allow, accept and appreciate what I was feeling and what I was experiencing.

What showed up again and again was my knowing … I don’t want to participate in this world anymore. I have used these 3 platforms to share my new brand, my blogs and podcasts.

Once I enjoyed the experience … now I find myself more annoyed than enjoying.

So I asked myself: “For what purpose would I continue to use social media?”

And I didn’t come up with a compelling reason to continue.

When I spoke to my PA, Maxine and my Cyber Queen, Rae I asked them the same question. They both supported my decision and said that although there may be some people who do not agree, they got this is the right choice for me.

I am choosing to simplify my life, to let go of the clutter … physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. For me, social media is clutter and I am choosing to let it go.

So this is my final post on this platform. Not my final blog or offering … just the last time i will distribute my work on these platforms. All my articlesvideos and podcasts are on my website (www.lornapatten.com).

If you want to keep in touch and are not on my database, click here to sign up. Or you can email me or give me a call.

And you can just check out my website from time to time to see what’s new.

As always it’s your choice how and when you want to engage.

Love Lorna

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Inside Out

Inside Out

As I approach the end of another calendar year, I find myself reflecting on the year that has been and marvelling at the complexity and the simplicity both locally and globally.

There can be no doubt that this year brought a multitude of fascinating, frustrating and illuminating mirrors in the form of various world leaders and local friends and foes.

When I found myself awash in the sheer lunacy of what I was seeing and experiencing, the only relief I sought was to go within and ask myself one key question: “What would love do now?” Because any other location or any other question was not going to deliver what I sought … peace.

And that, my friends, is what I am taking away with me for my annual holiday with family. That the only true path to peace is within. There is no sustainable peace or joy or happiness on offer when I am attached to and hell bent on making my external reality meet my expectations. After many years of relentlessly going down that rabbit hole, I have discovered that if I truly want inner peace then I must go within and choose to BE at peace.

There is nothing I can control or make happen in my external world. No amount of persuasion will make someone feel what I want them to feel or do what I want them to do or be how I want them to be. And yet the divine dichotomy in the paradigm of cause is that I have created all of it and yet I control none of it.

When I remember I create the whole of my own reality with love and wisdom – always – I can relax and let go and allow myself to appreciate the complexity and the simplicity of the whole and trust that there is purpose in all of it. Then I get to choose how I want to BE in relationship to whatever is occurring and thus transform not just my internal state but also my experience of my external reality including how I experience you.

Just need to remember … I get to choose.

Love Lorna

The Change Room – Episode 18: Right Wrong

The Change Room – Episode 18: Right Wrong

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

Last episode we did the big reveal for “I’m okay, loveable, valuable because I am” and today Suzy and I have the perfect follow-up with the distinction of Right and Wrong.

When we accept “I’m okay, loveable, valuable because I am”, there’s nothing to prove and we have the freedom to choose. But with all that choice we encounter a different problem as we try to work out which is the right or wrong choice.

In this episode we’ll explore:

  • Why we’re so attached to being right
  • The Right Wrong paradigm in business.
  • Example of a Right Wrong paradigm.
  • Reasons why we are averse to being wrong.
  • How being responsive rather than reactive helps us go through the process and be responsible for what we choose to do next.
  • How Right Wrong is always context dependent.
  • The problem with asking “What’s wrong?”
  • Feeling wrong is a feeling, not a fact.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Play – Imagine everything you think is right is wrong and everything you think is wrong is right.
  • Right and wrong is always context dependent
  • Make a choice without having a reason.
  • Be right or be at peace. Choose.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 16: Love

The Change Room – Episode 16: Love

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

Today in The Change Room ​Suzy and I discuss creating results from the Context of Love. We’re talking about the distinction of love, so it’s the Context of Love rather than romantic feeling of​ l​ove.

In this episode we cover:

  • Context of love in business.
  • Shifting from the context of fear to the context of love.
  • How Lorna creates from a context of love.
  • Feelings of picking up the phone for sales calls.
  • Experience of fear and how it affects business.
  • Sales or influence and the context of love and relationships.
  • The old model of sales, the results it brings, and changes we can make to improve the way we build relationships with clients.
  • Examples of sales conversations in the context of love.
  • Love as a choice.

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Create a circuit breaker for habitual and old ways of thinking.
  • Acknowledge the feelings of fear.
  • Create a new context for sales conversations.
  • Choose to be loved everyday.
  • When you don’t know what to do, ask yourself this question: what would love do now?
  • Remember that fear is just a call to love.

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

The Change Room – Episode 15: Fear

The Change Room – Episode 15: Fear

Join me and the fabulous Suzy Jacobs on The Change Room Podcast.

Having discussed the distinction ‘Judgement’ last episode, today Suzy and I look at the big one – Fear.

When we talk fear, most of us imagine the big fears in life – fear of dying, public speaking, skydiving, leaving a job to chase a dream, but fear is more insidious and pervasive than that.

In this episode we cover:

  • How fear shows up in our life.
  • The context of fear is not the same as the feeling of fear.
  • That feeling scared and operating out of fear are not the same thing.
  • Old vs new paradigm – Love vs Fear.
  • Any restrictions you place in your life is a sign of fear impacting your decision making.
  • Finding your voice and practicing it every day.
  • The importance of showing up and speaking your truth in all moments, no matter how small.
  • Asking yourself – what choices would I make if I had no fear?

#Thrival Tips for your #Thrival Kit

  • Be aware of, and acknowledge, if your choices are coming from a place of love or fear.
  • Remember that fear is an illusion.
  • Make friends with your ego mind.
  • Choose to be conscious of all the ways fear shows up.
  • Ask yourself – what would love do?

The Change Room Podcast

with Suzy Jacobs

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