Goodbye Social Media

Goodbye Social Media

It’s taken me a while to process my decision to let go of participating in social media.

Now that I have, it’s goodbye to Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

For some time now I have been feeling disengaged and unmotivated to check my FB pages, my LinkedIn invitations and my Twitter feed. I thought it was just a passing phase so didn’t do anything to fix it or make anything happen … instead I chose to simply allow, accept and appreciate what I was feeling and what I was experiencing.

What showed up again and again was my knowing … I don’t want to participate in this world anymore. I have used these 3 platforms to share my new brand, my blogs and podcasts.

Once I enjoyed the experience … now I find myself more annoyed than enjoying.

So I asked myself: “For what purpose would I continue to use social media?”

And I didn’t come up with a compelling reason to continue.

When I spoke to my PA, Maxine and my Cyber Queen, Rae I asked them the same question. They both supported my decision and said that although there may be some people who do not agree, they got this is the right choice for me.

I am choosing to simplify my life, to let go of the clutter … physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. For me, social media is clutter and I am choosing to let it go.

So this is my final post on this platform. Not my final blog or offering … just the last time i will distribute my work on these platforms. All my articles, videos and podcasts are on my website (www.lornapatten.com).

If you want to keep in touch and are not on my database, click here to sign up. Or you can email me or give me a call.

And you can just check out my website from time to time to see what’s new.

As always it’s your choice how and when you want to engage.

Love Lorna

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Inside Out

Inside Out

As I approach the end of another calendar year, I find myself reflecting on the year that has been and marvelling at the complexity and the simplicity both locally and globally.

There can be no doubt that this year brought a multitude of fascinating, frustrating and illuminating mirrors in the form of various world leaders and local friends and foes.

When I found myself awash in the sheer lunacy of what I was seeing and experiencing, the only relief I sought was to go within and ask myself one key question: “What would love do now?” Because any other location or any other question was not going to deliver what I sought … peace.

And that, my friends, is what I am taking away with me for my annual holiday with family. That the only true path to peace is within. There is no sustainable peace or joy or happiness on offer when I am attached to and hell bent on making my external reality meet my expectations. After many years of relentlessly going down that rabbit hole, I have discovered that if I truly want inner peace then I must go within and choose to BE at peace.

There is nothing I can control or make happen in my external world. No amount of persuasion will make someone feel what I want them to feel or do what I want them to do or be how I want them to be. And yet the divine dichotomy in the paradigm of cause is that I have created all of it and yet I control none of it.

When I remember I create the whole of my own reality with love and wisdom – always – I can relax and let go and allow myself to appreciate the complexity and the simplicity of the whole and trust that there is purpose in all of it. Then I get to choose how I want to BE in relationship to whatever is occurring and thus transform not just my internal state but also my experience of my external reality including how I experience you.

Just need to remember … I get to choose.

Love Lorna

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I Choose Peace and Quiet

I Choose Peace and Quiet

As this year draws to a close, I – like many of you – have been contemplating what I want for Christmas.

What I am clear about is that I don’t need or want any more stuff. I have spent the past 6 months decluttering my space and my life so to fill it up again with more stuff is just not on … for me.

So what do I want?

I want peace and quiet.
I want to sit in the shade with a good book and no noise and just BE quiet.
I want to wake to the sound of birds rather than heavy road working machinery or leaf blowers or chainsaws or motorbikes or traffic.
I want to sink into the silence at the end of the day and feel quiet inside.
I want space to just BE without having to do anything in particular.
I want stillness and calm.

For the holidays, I am going away with my extended family to the south coast. There will be more than a dozen of us together for the Christmas week. There will be the usual cooking and preparation and gift wrapping and beach going and talking and laughing and just hanging out. Lots of fun and lots of energy and lots of people (and some animals too).

So how am I going to get what I want for Christmas?

Simple … I get to choose.
It’s my choice whether I experience peace or not.
It’s my choice to go to the coast with the family and it’s my choice how that is for me.
It’s my choice to feel quiet inside even when there is noise outside.

As for the silence … I have some earplugs so I can shut out the noise.
Or I can choose to let it wash over me without reacting.
It’s always my choice.

Love Lorna

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Where Do You Tolerate “Harvey” In Your Life?

Where Do You Tolerate “Harvey” In Your Life?

The Harvey Weinstein expose currently dominating world news has triggered some of my own memories of encounters with men behaving in a sexually inappropriate or downright predatory manner in relationship to me … and my own feelings of shame for attracting such attention and “letting it happen”.

My reluctance to confront what was happening came from a belief that there was no point.
Men behaving this way was tacitly accepted as the “norm” … just stuff that men did for fun or to prove themselves to other men … ”boys will be boys” and all that. Just something I had to avoid or tolerate as a woman.

So I quickly learned to avoid and when that didn’t work, to tolerate and move on. Yet what lingered was a niggling feeling that although I was not to blame, it was about me.

With the insight and power of the paradigm I Create the Whole Of My Own Reality, I can see that I was (and am) responsible. And rather than respond by speaking up, I chose to react by shutting up. I shut up because I felt to blame, I felt wrong and I felt ashamed … so I shutdown.

By not speaking up, by not calling those men to account for behaving in ways that went from not acceptable to downright illegal and immoral, I was tolerating it … and them.

And that’s what’s going on right now in our fear-filled, fear-fueled world. Everywhere I look, I see people reacting out of fear and shutting up rather than responding out of love and speaking up. And all it produces is more of the same.

So I choose to open up and show up and speak up about the things that matter to me. I choose to stop tolerating the intolerable and respond from love. As for Harvey, I send him love and hope that he finds the truth he seeks so that he too can respond to himself and everyone he has impacted with and from love.

What about you?

#MEtoo

Love Lorna

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You Always Have a Choice

You Always Have a Choice

Ever feel like you don’t have a choice?

And there is the rub … feeling like you don’t have a choice doesn’t mean it’s true that you don’t have a choice. What’s true is you FEEL you don’t have choice … it’s a feeling not a fact.

Feeling like you don’t have a choice often means you are not aware of the myriad of choices actually available to you in any given moment.  There is always another choice (or two or three or a dozen) you could choose … so when you feel like you have only one choice … stop … take a few deep breaths and ask yourself: “What other choices could I make right now?” and see what shows up. Chances are, the other choices will trigger a feeling that you either like or don’t like. And when you reject other choices it’s usually because you don’t like how you feel when you consider those choices.

So the next thing that happens is you choose the ONLY choice you feel ok about … even if it’s not really what you want or need.

Often you say you don’t have a choice because you want to avoid conflict, or confrontation or feeling vulnerable or uncomfortable etc. – not because you really don’t have a choice. It’s how you don’t want to feel that’s informing the choice … not the whole of what’s going on. And the only sustainable way to create what you consciously want is to first tell the truth about the whole of whatever is going on right now … including how you feel … then choose again …

Choose to remember that you can choose anything and that you do choose everything … and when you make a choice, something shows up … either what you chose or something else. When you accept that whatever shows up shows you the choice you made and what you need to respond to in order to manifest what you want … the process unfolds with ease and you get what you want.

Love Lorna

You always have a choice …
Just because you don’t like the other options
doesn’t mean you don’t have a choice.

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